What do we do when we jump a signal and a cop stops us? What do we do when our company receives multiple notices for some violation of an act under law and our responses are not satisfying enough for the authorities to stop further probing ? What do we do when our electronic vendor sells us a product cheaper without giving us an invoice? What do we do when cops bust our party for hosting it without the required permit ? What do we do when we want to organise a passport within a limited period shorter than the statutory time frame?
We simply use what we work so hard to earn, surprisingly the word is not respect or dignity but its MONEY. We pay off the authorities, the regulators, the cops, bluff the system through tax manipulations, use our contacts to fill the pockets of all those people who can get our work done in time. We initiate and ensure that CORRUPTION prevails in our system only so that its easier for more of us to get our work done.
Does not seem harmful for those who do not care after reading the papers stating that our CM (now ex) Mr A. Chavan and his predecessor Mr Deshmukh were corrupt in one of the many exposed cases of a CHS or to hear about how the MONEY that some fools pay as taxes gets spent on toilet paper for conducting the CWG under the leadership of the infamous Mr Kalamadi.
If this habit of saving money at the cost of corrupting society keeps going then soon there will be a legislation laid down which will contain provisions for laws that can be broken and with how much moolah. People who may not follow this common law usually the types who are honest, ethical and fair will be punished and vigilant action will be taken against them.
Sounds believable ? May just happen. Its understandable that at times, due to peer pressure, we are unwillingly compelled to bribe but stop being so selfish. For saving and making some money or time look what we have made of this country and its system. I have not met a single Indian citizen, who praises our politicians and our judiciary. Why? We are the ones that have made them what they are. Imagine if we don't stop now what our system will become and how ugly we will become as people?
Its ironic that some of us, who bribe or litter on the roads, when travel overseas, turn into these super well-behaved law abiding tourists. I don't wish to waste space on describing these kinds. But lets urge ourselves to spare a thought on our actions before we get tempted to bribe our legal monitors.
Tuesday, December 28, 2010
Sunday, September 26, 2010
PET THE PUG
Social life is our oxygen for survival. WIthout people around us we cannot live. Well this is a known fact but what is often ignored or rather kept subtly under wraps is the art of networking. I may not have much knowledge to call this a world wide phenomenon but having lived in this city for over 20 years I could fairly say that with contacts and a strong network one can really go far in life. Corporates pay people huge number of lakhs just for using their contacts and getting work done with simple human skills. You need good influential people, who you would love to call friends to do a whole lot of things in life, like getting your children married, if its an arranged amalgamation, to get a secured admission in some college if you weren't that impressive on your mark-sheet, to get publicity of your work, to get potential clients, build a social circle you could invite to your parties, to get authentic information, to get club entries, to get VIP pavilion tickets for a match and just about everything.
Its cheap to take away the genuineness out of relationships and just evaluate them on the basis of what you can gain from them. But its smart to be social and open to meeting people and hanging out with colleagues and just people from your domain of work to get things into smoother motion. It works for both sides. Going out and spending time and money is not a waste if your networking. Meeting friends friends and bosses friends can be cool. But don't ruin chilling with your close knit people and pulling their leg over inebriations. Some relations work without an agenda and should be kept that way.
So how do we start mingling. Its not an overnight change that you will witness, its a bend of mind and more of a mental thought that has to be inculcated. Just be good at your work because that is what people recognize you with and eventually its a give and take equation so only if you have something to offer you have something to gain and execute. Besides that just be wide minded and less judgmental about the different species that you encounter. Its important to learn to simply accept people. Respect subordinates too because they're the ones with more hands on experience. Hang out more and talk more with different people from different professions. Especially breaking the ice with people older than your age. Like chilling with your parents friends can be a debut. Learn more about art, sports and social issues as these are common connects and conversation initiators. Keep in mind public relations is not just for mass media graduates its for the entire race.
"Well all this food for thought is on the house but surely an investment."
Saturday, August 14, 2010
Saturday, July 24, 2010
BEER IS NOT ALWAYS CONSUMED
CLiches are not preferred by me. I am someone with the idea of wanting to change the world or just some things that I may not approve of. For instance having 'a single' ambition in life. When you ask a kid what he wants to grow up to be you expect monosyllabic answers like doctor, stylist or engineer but how about a teen who gives you a list like I want to be a guitarist, a singer, a researcher and a photographer ? You'd think, "He's a little confused and unsure hope sanity finds him and he can focus on something substantial to keep bread butter cheese and wine in his house."
But what is the fun in that ? In school we have 7 or 8 different subjects and not just one. For dinner we have different food each day of the week and not the same. We wear different clothes each day we may repeat some them at intervals but we at least have 7 pairs of clothes for each day of the week. So why can't we have 2 or 3 professions? why does one have to make a choice to select one? Most often it must be money but imagine if you gain knowledge in multiple fields you have that much more scope to monetisE.
Something doesn't convince me to choose only one profession for life. I want to explore and maneuver. I want to style photo shoots and fight PILs for discrepancies in the legal system. I want to install a solar panel on my building terrace and also learn the guitar. I want to be a good company secretary as well as a great writer and I know I can do all of this without having to stress my head and come to a single profession on my visiting card, simply because I WANT IT THAT WAY!.
But what is the fun in that ? In school we have 7 or 8 different subjects and not just one. For dinner we have different food each day of the week and not the same. We wear different clothes each day we may repeat some them at intervals but we at least have 7 pairs of clothes for each day of the week. So why can't we have 2 or 3 professions? why does one have to make a choice to select one? Most often it must be money but imagine if you gain knowledge in multiple fields you have that much more scope to monetisE.
Something doesn't convince me to choose only one profession for life. I want to explore and maneuver. I want to style photo shoots and fight PILs for discrepancies in the legal system. I want to install a solar panel on my building terrace and also learn the guitar. I want to be a good company secretary as well as a great writer and I know I can do all of this without having to stress my head and come to a single profession on my visiting card, simply because I WANT IT THAT WAY!.
Thursday, June 24, 2010
I AM TOO SEXY FOR MY SHIRT
What makes a person sexy? In my opinion, its your personality and your attitude towards life along with ablity to be desirable indoors. From childhood we were imbibed with beliefs like women are more into fashion and men are more into gizmos. Women don't understand their finances as well as their male accountant. Women are weaker at repairing cars and gadgets and understanding tyre types and speedometers. Let us go to the root of it to know why are women like this? or rather men like that and who is sexier?
Life of a young girl is an interesting illustration. She is a fresher at work, coping with changes in environment from college to corporate life. Dealing with male attention and protecting her integrity, proving her worth in office, dressing the part and ensuring its covered and well turned out. Managing her menustral cycles with heeled shoes and an alert mind to avoid screwing up. If she has a boyfriend, then balancing time with him and family. Keeping energy levels and positivity high because no one wants a cranky complaining girl friend. Feeding her femnine side through regular hair removals and beauty maintanence regimes, which will include a visit to the parlour atleast once in 2 weeks. Shopping for newer trends and keeping herself updated with information from the glamworld. Because she has been gifted with beauty and its her natural inherited trait to protect it. Afterall you dont want a noble price where you cannot make out whether the recipient is a man or a woman.
As she grows older, she has to make shift in her lifestyle and home to marry into a new family and adapt to their surroundings. It continues and rather gets worse when she adorns motherhood and takes up a full time parallel job adding to your existing work profile. Not leaving aside the weight of carrying the baby for 9 months and go through his delivery, like a tired hand cart puller.
Now lets us compare a macho's life. He has to grow up playing with his friends and not caring whether his shorts or jersey rise higher during the game. He can just step out of his bed and leave the house. Wear only trunks to the pool even with the hairiest legs. He doesn't have to go through the ordeal of putting and removing make up. He has more time to focus on his work because a woman, whether his mom or wife back home is looking into keeping the house in order and food on his plate. His sexual desires are oh so incomplete without a woman, who has to be creative at even in that area. He sure knows more about parking the car right and changing a punctured tyre because there is nothing more critical in his life than that. He has to do too little with himself thus he can look around and gather more from his environment. He doesn't have to handle males starring at him if he didn't buckle his first two shirt buttons. Life is easier and less deep. His hair is short too so neither does he need to ensure its extra care and style.
These are general observations about the reason for differences in the two sexes and their respective areas of excellence. There are exceptions in both categories. But the fact remains that despite a woman's pre occupied life she has the ability and potential to evolve through names like Indra Nooyi, Sonia Gandhi, Oprah WInfrey, Chanda Kochhar or Kathryn Bigelow and that makes her too sexy. Make way boys..
Life of a young girl is an interesting illustration. She is a fresher at work, coping with changes in environment from college to corporate life. Dealing with male attention and protecting her integrity, proving her worth in office, dressing the part and ensuring its covered and well turned out. Managing her menustral cycles with heeled shoes and an alert mind to avoid screwing up. If she has a boyfriend, then balancing time with him and family. Keeping energy levels and positivity high because no one wants a cranky complaining girl friend. Feeding her femnine side through regular hair removals and beauty maintanence regimes, which will include a visit to the parlour atleast once in 2 weeks. Shopping for newer trends and keeping herself updated with information from the glamworld. Because she has been gifted with beauty and its her natural inherited trait to protect it. Afterall you dont want a noble price where you cannot make out whether the recipient is a man or a woman.
As she grows older, she has to make shift in her lifestyle and home to marry into a new family and adapt to their surroundings. It continues and rather gets worse when she adorns motherhood and takes up a full time parallel job adding to your existing work profile. Not leaving aside the weight of carrying the baby for 9 months and go through his delivery, like a tired hand cart puller.
Now lets us compare a macho's life. He has to grow up playing with his friends and not caring whether his shorts or jersey rise higher during the game. He can just step out of his bed and leave the house. Wear only trunks to the pool even with the hairiest legs. He doesn't have to go through the ordeal of putting and removing make up. He has more time to focus on his work because a woman, whether his mom or wife back home is looking into keeping the house in order and food on his plate. His sexual desires are oh so incomplete without a woman, who has to be creative at even in that area. He sure knows more about parking the car right and changing a punctured tyre because there is nothing more critical in his life than that. He has to do too little with himself thus he can look around and gather more from his environment. He doesn't have to handle males starring at him if he didn't buckle his first two shirt buttons. Life is easier and less deep. His hair is short too so neither does he need to ensure its extra care and style.
These are general observations about the reason for differences in the two sexes and their respective areas of excellence. There are exceptions in both categories. But the fact remains that despite a woman's pre occupied life she has the ability and potential to evolve through names like Indra Nooyi, Sonia Gandhi, Oprah WInfrey, Chanda Kochhar or Kathryn Bigelow and that makes her too sexy. Make way boys..
Monday, June 21, 2010
LOVE YOUR OWN SKIN
The most pleasurable and easily available times are the ones you have with 'inanimate' (word credit : Solicitor, Jesal Shah) objects. When you see people fighting or cribbing about not meeting friends or not having anything to do in their virtual free time, its sad. Courtesy: technology and developments, in our environment because of some genius strangers, our lives are so much more entertaining and lively that we really could do without people around us. Like play games or watch movies, read books, write books if you have the patience, paint, photograph, eat yummy food, drink, sleep, swim, drive around, travel you could everything you wanted without having to explain anyone why it should be done or without having to wait for plans to be made and people to respond to your convenience. Yea I know it sounds a bit weird to be just doing things alone but its more strange to just sit at home because no one is their to come out with you. Basically, just to depend on people to do things with you that you could do otherwise. Its cool to just go lunch on sushi if you really want to have it and your friends don't. I am not propagating a lonely life but just enjoy your own company once in while. You can be fun to hangout with.
Saturday, June 12, 2010
BAR NITES
im kind of surprised y people take support of alcohol to express themselves, to forget their pains, to succumb to peer pressure.. it just doesn't seem a good enough excuse when ur sane..but really y is it that we drink or smoke?? is it fear to let the world know of the real madness that lies beneath or is it just a way to have fun n enjoy d worst music that you wouldn't have otherwise just to come across more cool?.. well i dunno may be we shud repatriate on our drinks when we're worn out and really dusted to just get good sleep or may be when you have to ask you're girlfriend out...what ever your're reason may be just do it for 1 that feels right..i mean you don't want to wake up wondering y were u such bitch...nevertheless whrs my bacardi sprite?
YOu know its important to express yourself clearly when youre sane than drunk..let's work on it.. n ya didn't someone say happiness was state of mind.?/?
YOu know its important to express yourself clearly when youre sane than drunk..let's work on it.. n ya didn't someone say happiness was state of mind.?/?
Wednesday, May 19, 2010
I LOVE TEARS ;(
When something different from what we expected happens we call it BAD. Just think about the following questions:
-Would India's history and freedom fighters existed in the absence of the East India Company's tyrannical rules?
-Would Dhirubhai Ambani receive the same recognition if he hadn't been through the struggle ?
-Would our stock exchange rules be so sound in the absence of the Ketan Parekh scams?
All these questions bring out a simple funda that whenever something bad happens it is actually a foundation for something great to emerge. For all those 'bad' times that you went through in your life, some of which seem fatal are all jumping boards for you.
A bad job gives you a chance to discover that you're not meant for this field and your interests lie elsewhere, which is a very important discovery that saves you from wasting the rest of your life in it. A bad relationship teaches you about what to avoid in your next one, what's better, it gives you a chance to know and be with a superior person. A dishonest friendship teaches you about detachment. A rejected activity that you gave your heart, helped you fetch your potentials and those of others.
With time and events, one learns but for that one has to be willing to learn and accept. Most often, it burns your heart, when you're suffering, (in some cases it takes years for people to realise how the adversity helped them), but its temporary, at the end of it, we are all positive people, who believe in happy endings. Our mind only buys that.
So don't worry if it wasn't your day today, it still made sense because you know more today than yesterday !
-Would India's history and freedom fighters existed in the absence of the East India Company's tyrannical rules?
-Would Dhirubhai Ambani receive the same recognition if he hadn't been through the struggle ?
-Would our stock exchange rules be so sound in the absence of the Ketan Parekh scams?
All these questions bring out a simple funda that whenever something bad happens it is actually a foundation for something great to emerge. For all those 'bad' times that you went through in your life, some of which seem fatal are all jumping boards for you.
A bad job gives you a chance to discover that you're not meant for this field and your interests lie elsewhere, which is a very important discovery that saves you from wasting the rest of your life in it. A bad relationship teaches you about what to avoid in your next one, what's better, it gives you a chance to know and be with a superior person. A dishonest friendship teaches you about detachment. A rejected activity that you gave your heart, helped you fetch your potentials and those of others.
With time and events, one learns but for that one has to be willing to learn and accept. Most often, it burns your heart, when you're suffering, (in some cases it takes years for people to realise how the adversity helped them), but its temporary, at the end of it, we are all positive people, who believe in happy endings. Our mind only buys that.
So don't worry if it wasn't your day today, it still made sense because you know more today than yesterday !
Monday, May 10, 2010
SUGGEST ME TITLE
The summer heat is enough for us to battle. Let us giving our genius minds a break from the serious thinking (that my excuse for not having a title) and get a little naughty, flirty and wild!
What is it that gets us excited about ourselves instantly? For most of us it is compliments. When you compliment/ flirt with a guy or girl, you give them a moment that makes them feel great about themselves and instantly brings them in a good mood. Especially if it came from a person of the opposite sex.
For those of us, who agree with me read on for more on how to sustain the attention and those of us who think otherwise, don't waste your time.
Why do you prefer Arjun Rampal over Rajpal Yadav, when the latter is a more experienced actor? Because AR looks gorgeous!
Looks and personality are the pre requisites for gathering eye balls. If you are desparate, it will show in the way you dress. If you think you're hot, it will reflect. So don't pretend. The mirror will tell you whether you look good enough or not? The benchmark for this is set by your own taste buds, your exposure to different cultures and your overall lifestyle - It is not so complicated but if you're still lost, ask any girl for help ;P
Second is conversation. However amazing you look it won't work if you can't express. It doesn't mean you have to be talkative or OTT but let your hair down (no one is interested to know your stress details) and be yourself - This is tough to execute for some, easy way out : 3 drinks and good music !
Third is attitude. Don't focus on just 1 person, Ya I know you find just that one guy attractive but don't show it. Play a little. Its fun to test different waters before settling down on one - You will enjoy this the most!
Fourth is believe in yourself, not my random thoughts! You're good and will always stay in the league :)
Fifth says, if you can't do any of the above, don't stress. Just compliment people around you and see the benefits ;) - This is risky because if you're fake, you're rejected forever !
What is it that gets us excited about ourselves instantly? For most of us it is compliments. When you compliment/ flirt with a guy or girl, you give them a moment that makes them feel great about themselves and instantly brings them in a good mood. Especially if it came from a person of the opposite sex.
For those of us, who agree with me read on for more on how to sustain the attention and those of us who think otherwise, don't waste your time.
Why do you prefer Arjun Rampal over Rajpal Yadav, when the latter is a more experienced actor? Because AR looks gorgeous!
Looks and personality are the pre requisites for gathering eye balls. If you are desparate, it will show in the way you dress. If you think you're hot, it will reflect. So don't pretend. The mirror will tell you whether you look good enough or not? The benchmark for this is set by your own taste buds, your exposure to different cultures and your overall lifestyle - It is not so complicated but if you're still lost, ask any girl for help ;P
Second is conversation. However amazing you look it won't work if you can't express. It doesn't mean you have to be talkative or OTT but let your hair down (no one is interested to know your stress details) and be yourself - This is tough to execute for some, easy way out : 3 drinks and good music !
Third is attitude. Don't focus on just 1 person, Ya I know you find just that one guy attractive but don't show it. Play a little. Its fun to test different waters before settling down on one - You will enjoy this the most!
Fourth is believe in yourself, not my random thoughts! You're good and will always stay in the league :)
Fifth says, if you can't do any of the above, don't stress. Just compliment people around you and see the benefits ;) - This is risky because if you're fake, you're rejected forever !
Monday, May 3, 2010
THE F** WORD
Fun, a 3 letter word can fit into any sentence. Everything we do in our day can be accompanied with fun. Like bunking work and going for an unplanned holiday is fun, going sky diving and doing things that break mundane tasks are fun. Photography is fun as you project the world through your lens. Fun is also the creativity we add to the daily chores we perform. Like the way you research on your audience and frame a strategy for your brand, or ways in which you bug your boss/girlfriend/boyfriend/friend just to see that irritated expression!
We're naturally creative. We can make medicines, computers, stereos, movies, songs, and many more things. Humans are blessed with a creative mind that can do good to the creators as well as the users. So let's give ourselves some credit and explore how we can rescue our naughty bones from the boring, routine ones.
End your day with an activity you love. Like, hear your fav music, get clean sheets & night wear, cuddle up, cream yourself, read or simply lie down to relax every muscle. Great sleep will gear you up to conquer the next day with ideas to add more fun.
Start your day by looking at the trees or the ocean, get a fancy toothbrush, a minty- yummy toothpaste, get a new mug for your tea/coffee every 2 months so that'll excite you, eat different breakfast everyday, read jokes and look for humor in everything that happens around you. Like if your mum nags you for everything, try nagging her back by asking her about all her whereabouts. If your lift man doesn't bring up the lift when you ring the bell take the steps and ring the bell at every floor that you walk down to trouble him. The point is to get naughty and just laugh at all the chaos by adding fun to it. I know this sounds sadist but as long as its in good faith and not hurting anyone its cool. You're adding some humor in the opposite person's life as well.
People anyway live with so much baggage, lets ease out a bit so that we have moments to smile, when we take an overview.
We're naturally creative. We can make medicines, computers, stereos, movies, songs, and many more things. Humans are blessed with a creative mind that can do good to the creators as well as the users. So let's give ourselves some credit and explore how we can rescue our naughty bones from the boring, routine ones.
End your day with an activity you love. Like, hear your fav music, get clean sheets & night wear, cuddle up, cream yourself, read or simply lie down to relax every muscle. Great sleep will gear you up to conquer the next day with ideas to add more fun.
Start your day by looking at the trees or the ocean, get a fancy toothbrush, a minty- yummy toothpaste, get a new mug for your tea/coffee every 2 months so that'll excite you, eat different breakfast everyday, read jokes and look for humor in everything that happens around you. Like if your mum nags you for everything, try nagging her back by asking her about all her whereabouts. If your lift man doesn't bring up the lift when you ring the bell take the steps and ring the bell at every floor that you walk down to trouble him. The point is to get naughty and just laugh at all the chaos by adding fun to it. I know this sounds sadist but as long as its in good faith and not hurting anyone its cool. You're adding some humor in the opposite person's life as well.
People anyway live with so much baggage, lets ease out a bit so that we have moments to smile, when we take an overview.
Saturday, May 1, 2010
ALMOST THERE
We are so close and yet so far..We have a degree that we achieved after 3 or 4 yrs of struggle and yet don't have a job or a settled/stable career. There is a guy you're dating but still not sure whether you can trust him for life.. You have your own business set up but still not achieving your targets..You are hanging out at the best of places but not with the company you'd like to be with.
We are so close to our dreams and yet so far from them.
A close person in my life is nearing the most memorable moment of his life and I am not with him. All I get to say is, 'I wish I was there.' Feel so helpless and stuck. As if I have wings but they're tied up. How will I pull through the weekend without thinking and feeling sad about this..
But at times like these I guess you have to leave things to destiny, to the belief that I will get only what is meant for me. So you don't end up thinking about it and don't ignore what you have already got. Hmmm sounds like a solution..lets try it!!
We are so close to our dreams and yet so far from them.
A close person in my life is nearing the most memorable moment of his life and I am not with him. All I get to say is, 'I wish I was there.' Feel so helpless and stuck. As if I have wings but they're tied up. How will I pull through the weekend without thinking and feeling sad about this..
But at times like these I guess you have to leave things to destiny, to the belief that I will get only what is meant for me. So you don't end up thinking about it and don't ignore what you have already got. Hmmm sounds like a solution..lets try it!!
Wednesday, April 28, 2010
WHY COMPLICATE
Hi munchkins! Last week a collegue of mine went for a seminar on corporate etiquette. He shared the reading material with me and I am surprisd at how elucidated the matter is. I don't know if these are pratically used but they're certainly being preached. There are prohibitions on usage of the 1st name while addressing someone, unless being permitted to do so. Its regarded humiliating. I mean hello? How can your name sound insulting.
Another 1 says, when you introduce somebody, the 'rule' per se is that the higher ranked person should be addressed 1st followed by the lower ranked. Also, if your calling 1 of them by their last name, like Mr X & the other by his 1st, like Joe then just make sure you've got their hierarchies right. I say, "How does it matter? Ego boosting complicated fodder!"
The others are quite basic, like suitably dressing, being punctual, greeting well, etc. As a fresher, I ask, why do we need to know these manners? I mean can't people just be respected for their skill and true self? Is it all just about presentation and illusion ?
May be this is 1 of the reasons people are more stressed because they are maintaining their job work as well as 'behavioral'.
Another 1 says, when you introduce somebody, the 'rule' per se is that the higher ranked person should be addressed 1st followed by the lower ranked. Also, if your calling 1 of them by their last name, like Mr X & the other by his 1st, like Joe then just make sure you've got their hierarchies right. I say, "How does it matter? Ego boosting complicated fodder!"
The others are quite basic, like suitably dressing, being punctual, greeting well, etc. As a fresher, I ask, why do we need to know these manners? I mean can't people just be respected for their skill and true self? Is it all just about presentation and illusion ?
May be this is 1 of the reasons people are more stressed because they are maintaining their job work as well as 'behavioral'.
Monday, April 26, 2010
POTION
Whether we accept it or not, MEN are important in our lives. They can make us feel like a woman for starters can make us cry, can make us laugh because they make a mole out of a mountain. They can rescue us from our technological mess. Can make us shop and you do feel special when your man shops for u. They teach us the true meaning of love and yet we crib about their attitude, behavior, immaturity, etc.,Let us give some credit to them for being what they are.
They remain teenagers all their lives. You just have to understand one and you'll know them all. They share uniform likes and dislikes. Time with friends, good food & drinks, sports entertainment, sex & space whenever they want it, makes a man happy and content. They are very sensitive and will love you passionately. May be he won't express it but he surely knows himself what you mean to him. They love to be taken care for a change. They can get carried away with ease and succumb to peer pressure often. But at the same time are strong willed and work oriented.
But why should be bother understanding them? Because we are incomplete without them. No matter what you may carve your career into. Even if you become the President, you will miss coming home to the man, who loves you. He just creates that element of adrenaline in your life that takes away all the problems and just leaves you with serenity and security of having someone whose the closest to your real self. You don't need to spend hours with him to retain or create this. It just happens and stays like a birthmark. I sound like I've studied a dozen, (well lets not get into the numbers) but you can rely on this gyaan..at least for a while ;)
Don't be shy or hesitant about falling for a man. Its natural and worth it!!
They remain teenagers all their lives. You just have to understand one and you'll know them all. They share uniform likes and dislikes. Time with friends, good food & drinks, sports entertainment, sex & space whenever they want it, makes a man happy and content. They are very sensitive and will love you passionately. May be he won't express it but he surely knows himself what you mean to him. They love to be taken care for a change. They can get carried away with ease and succumb to peer pressure often. But at the same time are strong willed and work oriented.
But why should be bother understanding them? Because we are incomplete without them. No matter what you may carve your career into. Even if you become the President, you will miss coming home to the man, who loves you. He just creates that element of adrenaline in your life that takes away all the problems and just leaves you with serenity and security of having someone whose the closest to your real self. You don't need to spend hours with him to retain or create this. It just happens and stays like a birthmark. I sound like I've studied a dozen, (well lets not get into the numbers) but you can rely on this gyaan..at least for a while ;)
Don't be shy or hesitant about falling for a man. Its natural and worth it!!
Saturday, April 24, 2010
RE-FILL
Stuck in an elevator without knowing when will u get out, stuck in a job you wish you had not taken up? In a marriage you wished had stayed as long as the honey moon? If yes, then where to from here? What do we do now? How should we strive to move on???
Grey matter says leave the situation and do what makes you happy but heart says, Lets fight it out man..let us get back on our feet and counter attack. If it still doesn't work out then trash it but after being satisfied that you lived up to your capacity.
1st thing you need to do when stuck is disengage. Detach for a while, just spend time with yourself and do the things that you've been holding behind. Our mind is like a child. We have to first pamper it and then give it instructions to obey. So try it and let me if it worked.
A tried and tested formula for disengaging is nature. I may sound like an environmentalist but its true nature gives us a different high, which is why beaches are the most preferred and so are places, like Zermat. Imagine being at the base of a mountain by the lake side and watching the sunset with birds chirping around and wind blowing through your hair. With this ambience, even 2 glasses of moet can be enough to get you in the mood. Living in a metropolitan does take away this nature aspect from your surroundings, so one has to make do with balcony plants, sea sides and lounges that try to capture its essence. Well, something better than nothing. Having said that do make efforts to SAVE THE ENVIRONMENT!!!
Lots of luvv.. M
Grey matter says leave the situation and do what makes you happy but heart says, Lets fight it out man..let us get back on our feet and counter attack. If it still doesn't work out then trash it but after being satisfied that you lived up to your capacity.
1st thing you need to do when stuck is disengage. Detach for a while, just spend time with yourself and do the things that you've been holding behind. Our mind is like a child. We have to first pamper it and then give it instructions to obey. So try it and let me if it worked.
A tried and tested formula for disengaging is nature. I may sound like an environmentalist but its true nature gives us a different high, which is why beaches are the most preferred and so are places, like Zermat. Imagine being at the base of a mountain by the lake side and watching the sunset with birds chirping around and wind blowing through your hair. With this ambience, even 2 glasses of moet can be enough to get you in the mood. Living in a metropolitan does take away this nature aspect from your surroundings, so one has to make do with balcony plants, sea sides and lounges that try to capture its essence. Well, something better than nothing. Having said that do make efforts to SAVE THE ENVIRONMENT!!!
Lots of luvv.. M
Wednesday, April 21, 2010
MIDWEEK FUN
Well..the coming hours did surprise me with a lot of enjoyment and love. I went with my collegues to an old age home in SoBo and had a blast. The inmates there were all in their late 70s - 80s. We made them play housie by helping them cross the numbers and handed over gift bags containing mugs and confectionaries to 7 full house winners. They were so ecstatic. Some of them had hearing, while the others had vision or speech defects. Some were extremely ill to even come out of their beds, but all of them welcomed us with so much warmth and love just like we had come to their home.
Must say 'music makes the people come together'. They were singing, giggling and enjoying every bit of the vintage classics songs that had such complicated lyrics. I lost complete track of the ticking clock until one of us said its time. After seeing the excitement on their faces I thought they would be sad or upset at ending this meet. But I was wrong. Guess grey hair does increase the usability of the grey matter. They were prepared that it was going to be short lived and were in fact so thankful and kicked about their afternoon that I think for the next one week they will cherish the memories of this day.
At times like these you realise the worth of your time. People who know you, won't value it as much as strangers will. You can just spend a couple of minutes and leave life-long imprints.
Must say 'music makes the people come together'. They were singing, giggling and enjoying every bit of the vintage classics songs that had such complicated lyrics. I lost complete track of the ticking clock until one of us said its time. After seeing the excitement on their faces I thought they would be sad or upset at ending this meet. But I was wrong. Guess grey hair does increase the usability of the grey matter. They were prepared that it was going to be short lived and were in fact so thankful and kicked about their afternoon that I think for the next one week they will cherish the memories of this day.
At times like these you realise the worth of your time. People who know you, won't value it as much as strangers will. You can just spend a couple of minutes and leave life-long imprints.
MIDWEEK CRISIS
Its annoying to workkk when nothing is going your wayy...I spent 2hours in the morning learning about futures, options and the deravatives jazz. Spent an hour on aligning a document and running between the corridors in my new shoe bitten ballerinas. Dealt with my mood swings, which are a part of the price you pay for being a woman (ladies get the hint) and have to still surf through the entire evening. I hope the coming hours surprise me because I really want to die otherwise.
But going by my last post, its not wise to live in anticipation so what do I do?? GO home and chill?? or should I go get a drink?? should I throw away my shoes?? (feel free to suggest)
uuuuggghhhh...may be I should calm and continue doing what makes me happy so be ready to read more :)
But going by my last post, its not wise to live in anticipation so what do I do?? GO home and chill?? or should I go get a drink?? should I throw away my shoes?? (feel free to suggest)
uuuuggghhhh...may be I should calm and continue doing what makes me happy so be ready to read more :)
Tuesday, April 20, 2010
WHAT IF..
Lets break the monotony of the day with this thought. Haven't you noticed that we humans live in anticipation. We work our muscles and nerves out to buy a bigger house, to afford a car, to earn our futuristic pride or to kill virtual free time. But just think for a second that you have some dreadful disease, which is going to end your life in 5 days.
How would you live your life now? After the initial shock and trauma of never seeing your loved ones again, you would possibly and positively reach a free state of mind. Where you would be calm and serene. Since you have nothing greater to lose than your life, your perception of reacting to situations and people would be more chilled out.
Instead of wasting time on analysing why your friend back bitched about you, you would rather do something on your 'wish list' before the 5 days end. You would be more loving and generous to people around you because you know you that gives you inner happiness, which you want to experience in every moment of these counting days. You would also splurge may be, like go for a spa treatment whenever you back ached or binge on your favourite chocolate dessert without caring hoots about the calories. May be you'd hook up with a random girl/guy at a club or rent a porsche for a day to experience the thrill of having one.
The point is to fulfill your thoughts. Dreams are way to ahead of time. Lets start with what we want right now because WHAT IF this is the last time your reading anything?
How would you live your life now? After the initial shock and trauma of never seeing your loved ones again, you would possibly and positively reach a free state of mind. Where you would be calm and serene. Since you have nothing greater to lose than your life, your perception of reacting to situations and people would be more chilled out.
Instead of wasting time on analysing why your friend back bitched about you, you would rather do something on your 'wish list' before the 5 days end. You would be more loving and generous to people around you because you know you that gives you inner happiness, which you want to experience in every moment of these counting days. You would also splurge may be, like go for a spa treatment whenever you back ached or binge on your favourite chocolate dessert without caring hoots about the calories. May be you'd hook up with a random girl/guy at a club or rent a porsche for a day to experience the thrill of having one.
The point is to fulfill your thoughts. Dreams are way to ahead of time. Lets start with what we want right now because WHAT IF this is the last time your reading anything?
Monday, April 19, 2010
AFTER THOUGHTS
A stressful day at the end of it gives you a smile if you did something right. Something that reflected a facet of your personality in it. Whether it was a smart financial scheme you offered your client, bought a book from a kid at the signal or designed elegant interiors. All of it is an extension of your traits.
So focus on yourself, the good lies within not around.
While going to office today, I realised that while the car was moving, neither could I put lipstick properly nor could I sip on water from my medium mouthed bottle. (Don't think rationally and blame the roads or my car) Similarly, in our fast paced routines, if we want to branch out to something else, we have to stop by and pause for a while. I am not suggesting a hiatus from work but yes you may have to pull back one end slightly to accommodate your debutant activity.
For monday blues and other days' rainbows, make sure that you're not constantly sprinting. Take a breather in between, sip on some water and you surely won't get dehydrated!!
So focus on yourself, the good lies within not around.
While going to office today, I realised that while the car was moving, neither could I put lipstick properly nor could I sip on water from my medium mouthed bottle. (Don't think rationally and blame the roads or my car) Similarly, in our fast paced routines, if we want to branch out to something else, we have to stop by and pause for a while. I am not suggesting a hiatus from work but yes you may have to pull back one end slightly to accommodate your debutant activity.
For monday blues and other days' rainbows, make sure that you're not constantly sprinting. Take a breather in between, sip on some water and you surely won't get dehydrated!!
Sunday, April 18, 2010
WELCOME VANITY
Yesterday, I spent over 1.5 hours on getting a french manicure-pedicure. I have to confess it felt nice sipping on fresh lime soda on a sat afternoon with good music and a masseuse making my hands and feet look better but hello! 1.5 hours is way too much time. We women actually make so much effort to look the way we do and still want it to surface naturally as if we were just born with flawless skin and no concealer/base has given us our new found beauty.. :P
Well nothing wrong with using all these products but the point is that are these signs/mediums of covering up our insecurity or under-confidence? Will we be as confident and talkative if we were at Aer in our home clothes? I don't have the answer but I definitely have an observation.
No matter what we adorn, whether its Stella McCartney or its a Bandra buy, we must be comfortable and happy about being in our own skin. The feeling of being beautiful should not depend on material commodities. No matter what you wear you are attractive and gorgeous. So ladies, indulge if you're tasteful but not for the wrong reasons because your man will still find you the prettiest when you're bare ;)
Well nothing wrong with using all these products but the point is that are these signs/mediums of covering up our insecurity or under-confidence? Will we be as confident and talkative if we were at Aer in our home clothes? I don't have the answer but I definitely have an observation.
No matter what we adorn, whether its Stella McCartney or its a Bandra buy, we must be comfortable and happy about being in our own skin. The feeling of being beautiful should not depend on material commodities. No matter what you wear you are attractive and gorgeous. So ladies, indulge if you're tasteful but not for the wrong reasons because your man will still find you the prettiest when you're bare ;)
Saturday, April 17, 2010
STOP THINKING..ITS TIME FOR ACTION
Introduction
Dreamt of having your own business at 21? Imagine not having to intern or work under any tyrannical boss and having a set up of your own that allows you to foster your likings in a lucrative manner? This twin duo, Divya and Dipika Israni, has broken out of there imagination and made their dream come true by rooting their own flagship store of couture and accessories.
Information
They both completed there graduation in bachelors of managements studies in 2009 and applied for jobs here and there until they found their standing in the fashion field. They make garments, store shoes, clutches, earrings, neckpieces, cocktail rings and all that you need to look like a diva. Their brand name is Sapphire and their store is at Colaba, G6 apna ghar. Another unique feather in their cap is the fact that their parents are based in Dubai and the twins live in SoBo with their grand parents. This freedom transcends in their clothes line as well.
Take home
The spirit of backing your dreams by your actions. Most of us are left behind because we are fearful and under confident of our capabilities. We make excuses like inexperience or lack of funds to enterprise. But the fact is we are none of them. We too can bud out and blossom. Just dream on and work on it. The world out there is waiting for something honest and beneficial. So be that and express!!!
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