A broken-heart’s lullaby

To love is a brave decision. We all have been induced with a heart that pumps blood into all the parts of our body and keeps it in function. Without the heart, we cannot survive. We humans are designed to fall in love with everything that makes us smile, lends us happiness. But how many of us are designed to make people smile and grant them the happiness that we are always hunting for? 
Does the concept of unconditional love exist? Or we all just reciprocate in amounts that we deem fit?

It’s a real hard question! Think about it, would you ask the same girl out every day until she said yes?
Would you wait a lifetime for the guy who refused to be with you?

Honestly, with so many options and temptations around, it may be rare to resist but are we agreeing that most of our generation is getting depleted of belief and patience that their love will return or re-surface?

Honestly, what is at stake? Is it the fear of being alone in such a crazy world, where once you get busy all you crave for is some lone time! Or is it the feeling of having someone around to hang out with you and do everything that you’d ever want? Or is it filling in that vacuum of doing and receiving happiness and the habit of having a person around all the time?

Well, we are humans, not machines, where if one part fails, it gets replaced and the machine restarts.
We deserve more credit than that. Thus, rebound relationships, just moving on because it is scary to be alone or because you feel you will miss out on all the fun couples have might be shady! For it is only going to make you a person with less heart and value for your own relationships and feelings!

It takes courage and might to live with a vacuum and still be a loving person but the pride it brings to your life can be beyond all measures because in your heart you know your being faithful to your love and your decision and the end of the day all of us dig for such people to be in our lives. 

PARADIGM SHIFT

India is the land of emotions. One cannot oversee the dominance of festivals, family functions, daily customs/religious affairs and the numerous drama that surrounds our lives. But the most stark and in your face emotion that every girl grows up with or well used to grow up (discounting the current western culture obsessed generation) with is the presence of romance and love!!

It sounds super filmy and unreal now but it is a fact as I know of many girls whose lives actually are surrounded by their love or lover! Its is mushy, sweet and well ideal to fall in love but the scary part is how far will you go and at what cost to get your love?

What I am building upon is that if for some reason one cannot be with the guy/girl of their choice and one actually ends up with another person can one find happiness? Should one keep sulking or live in a fantasy about how it could have been or should one move on and be with the second contender?

Why is that relationships are such a big deal in life, when one has such plenty of other mediums to nourish their minds into? For instance, ones profession, hobby, friends, food, destinations, health, home and if your still efficient and have time on hand, give back to society by social work.! I do understand that a special relationship keeps you going and sees you through all the lows and highs but hey your the one who called it special and you have the right to re christen it!

Cut the drama out..relationships are at times over rated. One adjusts so well with their parents and siblings that we are born with, we don't question their presence and decide that I want to look out for a change, then why should it be different for a companion?

Then of course the question is when do u stop looking out, when do you settle in for what you have? Answer is when you decide to get in to a relation. Do all your research, indecisive thinking, boons and banes analysis before you  get in it. But once you commit yourself to it, make it work!! ..Quitting is not brave, changing is..Besides, when relationships are kept at par with other things in our lives, they get tamed and are well-behaved :p

Go green with love

The most real things in life don't need to be expressed in any other way. They just exist and people feel their presence. You don't need to justify their need or their use. They are by themselves their identity. If you abuse them, they're gone/depleted, take natural resources for instance. 

Recognize these precious and irreplaceable factors in your lives. If they get run out, you'll be left with something less, something superficial and makedo.

It is an act of bravery at most times to stand up against the abuse of diminishing resources, we campaign in many ways and endorse their advantages but at most times we're just so engulfed by their ever being that we don't even realise when they've left you only with memories and stories.. 

OPULENCE

Enjoy fashion with out panache or élan. It is as lifeless as a wedding ring without a rock. The Indian fashion scenario is evidently undergoing a transformation of sorts. From the times, where only royalty could access customized plush cars or bags we are spearing ahead in to a time, where our capital boasts of a Christian Louboutin store having a special line of red soles dedicated to India or Hermes launching with a limited edition sari collection in Mumbai.The era of pampering a part of our savings for luxury lifestyle products has certainly begun. What I look forward to is the peak of this era!

Just skimming through all the random thoughts that keep playing in my head, this one has proved its worth of being published on the blog.

While there are various brands making a foray into the emerging market mix of our nation, how do they account for all losses suffered by investors of telecom companies or airline industries? How do they ensure that their client base, well the potential one if not the ever existing riches, be able to afford and maintain using their luxurious products? What about the now in control but ever rising inflation or property prices?

I am sure they have a host of expertise at work doing all sorts of analysis but how about having a specialized mutual fund or a Systematic Investment Plan only for investors willing to splurge on these brands. Like imagine an investment scheme that gives you returns you can use for buying Gucci sunglasses or Tods moccasins. Something like, “Take a certain amount of my savings and let me use it only for indulgence, so that I don’t end up comprising with my needs and wants month after month.”

Brainstorm Bajaj, Reliance Brands and loads of others involved in contributing to mending spending patterns of our locals, while I dream of owning my Etro Maxi dress.

Adore!

It really amazes me how people lie and expect or rather assume that the others won't get it. You know most of the people around us are deceptive when it comes to buying a story. What I mean is they are smarter than your estimation. For example, on meeting a person raving about coachella, one jumps in to add how much you enjoy and relish indulging in tote bags! actually a more apt example would be claiming to be a single malt lover, when the world knows you don't go beyond red bull at any social event. What I rather don't get is the need for people to put on a pretense for 'fitting in' a group of friends or colleagues.

I have often noticed how people with so-called average backgrounds have really wealthy friends or contacts as one calls it. Because wealth or similar habits is not the deal cracker, when one chooses friends. It is sheer honesty and a connect that makes you like or dislike a person.

May be my opinion is amateurish but I definitely get turned off by a fake, 'want to be you', sugar coated people. In fact I feel sorry for the breed because there is a clear sense of insecurity in their minds about themselves. Chill people, breathe. We are not here to find our soul mates in the world. Sit back, enjoy your caffeine and just be you.

Similarly when it comes to dressing up, you often see some women that have reached a 'middle age' mode in their lives, suddenly getting OTT and wanting to showcase their youth! I mean sorry for being too rude, but aging beautifully is also a skill. What happened to elegance and grace? Insecurity is the evil I guess in both instances, until one feels confident about oneself, they keep trying ways and means to 'fit in', 'get noticed' or do all those things that according to them will get them accepted.

Pamper and cherish oneself for the way we are. It is enough if you can please yourself, rather than a group of people that anyways thinks your best kept at a distance.

In-transit

End of a crazyyy year!! I never expected 2011 to be soo special to me! MY first best friends wedding,. India winning the World Cup.. rocking scene for parties and dance! A killer night at Amby! Me getting a job at HDFC, starting law! Learning to drive a car! Making new friends! strengthening bonds with the old ones! and of course enjoying the waves! phew! I can just go on with the list.. Its so hard to not expect a similar or even better 2012! I love 2011 soo much for all the fun i had that i do not want to let it goo! Evidently im not the inventor/user of a time machine!

So I guess I am going to start 2012 on the same note that I started 2011! no expectations..safe bet!

Spread love, its fun!