WHY COMPLICATE

Hi munchkins! Last week a collegue of mine went for a seminar on corporate etiquette. He shared the reading material with me and I am surprisd at how elucidated the matter is. I don't know if these are pratically used but they're certainly being preached. There are prohibitions on usage of the 1st name while addressing someone, unless being permitted to do so. Its regarded humiliating. I mean hello? How can your name sound insulting.

Another 1 says, when you introduce somebody, the 'rule' per se is that the higher ranked person should be addressed 1st followed by the lower ranked. Also, if your calling 1 of them by their last name, like Mr X & the other by his 1st, like Joe then just make sure you've got their hierarchies right. I say, "How does it matter? Ego boosting complicated fodder!"

The others are quite basic, like suitably dressing, being punctual, greeting well, etc. As a fresher, I ask, why do we need to know these manners? I mean can't people just be respected for their skill and true self? Is it all just about presentation and illusion ?

May be this is 1 of the reasons people are more stressed because they are maintaining their job work as well as 'behavioral'.

POTION

Whether we accept it or not, MEN are important in our lives. They can make us feel like a woman for starters can make us cry, can make us laugh because they make a mole out of a mountain. They can rescue us from our technological mess. Can make us shop and you do feel special when your man shops for u. They teach us the true meaning of love and yet we crib about their attitude, behavior, immaturity, etc.,Let us give some credit to them for being what they are.

They remain teenagers all their lives. You just have to understand one and you'll know them all. They share uniform likes and dislikes. Time with friends, good food & drinks, sports entertainment, sex & space whenever they want it, makes a man happy and content. They are very sensitive and will love you passionately. May be he won't express it but he surely knows himself what you mean to him. They love to be taken care for a change. They can get carried away with ease and succumb to peer pressure often. But at the same time are strong willed and work oriented.

But why should be bother understanding them? Because we are incomplete without them. No matter what you may carve your career into. Even if you become the President, you will miss coming home to the man, who loves you. He just creates that element of adrenaline in your life that takes away all the problems and just leaves you with serenity and security of having someone whose the closest to your real self. You don't need to spend hours with him to retain or create this. It just happens and stays like a birthmark. I sound like I've studied a dozen, (well lets not get into the numbers) but you can rely on this gyaan..at least for a while ;)

Don't be shy or hesitant about falling for a man. Its natural and worth it!!

RE-FILL

Stuck in an elevator without knowing when will u get out, stuck in a job you wish you had not taken up? In a marriage you wished had stayed as long as the honey moon? If yes, then where to from here? What do we do now? How should we strive to move on???
Grey matter says leave the situation and do what makes you happy but heart says, Lets fight it out man..let us get back on our feet and counter attack. If it still doesn't work out then trash it but after being satisfied that you lived up to your capacity.

1st thing you need to do when stuck is disengage. Detach for a while, just spend time with yourself and do the things that you've been holding behind. Our mind is like a child. We have to first pamper it and then give it instructions to obey. So try it and let me if it worked.

A tried and tested formula for disengaging is nature. I may sound like an environmentalist but its true nature gives us a different high, which is why beaches are the most preferred and so are places, like Zermat. Imagine being at the base of a mountain by the lake side and watching the sunset with birds chirping around and wind blowing through your hair. With this ambience, even 2 glasses of moet can be enough to get you in the mood. Living in a metropolitan does take away this nature aspect from your surroundings, so one has to make do with balcony plants, sea sides and lounges that try to capture its essence. Well, something better than nothing. Having said that do make efforts to SAVE THE ENVIRONMENT!!!

Lots of luvv.. M

MIDWEEK FUN

Well..the coming hours did surprise me with a lot of enjoyment and love. I went with my collegues to an old age home in SoBo and had a blast. The inmates there were all in their late 70s - 80s. We made them play housie by helping them cross the numbers and handed over gift bags containing mugs and confectionaries to 7 full house winners. They were so ecstatic. Some of them had hearing, while the others had vision or speech defects. Some were extremely ill to even come out of their beds, but all of them welcomed us with so much warmth and love just like we had come to their home.

Must say 'music makes the people come together'. They were singing, giggling and enjoying every bit of the vintage classics songs that had such complicated lyrics. I lost complete track of the ticking clock until one of us said its time. After seeing the excitement on their faces I thought they would be sad or upset at ending this meet. But I was wrong. Guess grey hair does increase the usability of the grey matter. They were prepared that it was going to be short lived and were in fact so thankful and kicked about their afternoon that I think for the next one week they will cherish the memories of this day.

At times like these you realise the worth of your time. People who know you, won't value it as much as strangers will. You can just spend a couple of minutes and leave life-long imprints.

MIDWEEK CRISIS

Its annoying to workkk when nothing is going your wayy...I spent 2hours in the morning learning about futures, options and the deravatives jazz. Spent an hour on aligning a document and running between the corridors in my new shoe bitten ballerinas. Dealt with my mood swings, which are a part of the price you pay for being a woman (ladies get the hint) and have to still surf through the entire evening. I hope the coming hours surprise me because I really want to die otherwise.

But going by my last post, its not wise to live in anticipation so what do I do?? GO home and chill?? or should I go get a drink?? should I throw away my shoes?? (feel free to suggest)

uuuuggghhhh...may be I should calm and continue doing what makes me happy so be ready to read more :)

WHAT IF..

Lets break the monotony of the day with this thought. Haven't you noticed that we humans live in anticipation. We work our muscles and nerves out to buy a bigger house, to afford a car, to earn our futuristic pride or to kill virtual free time. But just think for a second that you have some dreadful disease, which is going to end your life in 5 days.

How would you live your life now? After the initial shock and trauma of never seeing your loved ones again, you would possibly and positively reach a free state of mind. Where you would be calm and serene. Since you have nothing greater to lose than your life, your perception of reacting to situations and people would be more chilled out.

Instead of wasting time on analysing why your friend back bitched about you, you would rather do something on your 'wish list' before the 5 days end. You would be more loving and generous to people around you because you know you that gives you inner happiness, which you want to experience in every moment of these counting days. You would also splurge may be, like go for a spa treatment whenever you back ached or binge on your favourite chocolate dessert without caring hoots about the calories. May be you'd hook up with a random girl/guy at a club or rent a porsche for a day to experience the thrill of having one.

The point is to fulfill your thoughts. Dreams are way to ahead of time. Lets start with what we want right now because WHAT IF this is the last time your reading anything?

AFTER THOUGHTS

A stressful day at the end of it gives you a smile if you did something right. Something that reflected a facet of your personality in it. Whether it was a smart financial scheme you offered your client, bought a book from a kid at the signal or designed elegant interiors. All of it is an extension of your traits.

So focus on yourself, the good lies within not around.

While going to office today, I realised that while the car was moving, neither could I put lipstick properly nor could I sip on water from my medium mouthed bottle. (Don't think rationally and blame the roads or my car) Similarly, in our fast paced routines, if we want to branch out to something else, we have to stop by and pause for a while. I am not suggesting a hiatus from work but yes you may have to pull back one end slightly to accommodate your debutant activity.

For monday blues and other days' rainbows, make sure that you're not constantly sprinting. Take a breather in between, sip on some water and you surely won't get dehydrated!!

WELCOME VANITY

Yesterday, I spent over 1.5 hours on getting a french manicure-pedicure. I have to confess it felt nice sipping on fresh lime soda on a sat afternoon with good music and a masseuse making my hands and feet look better but hello! 1.5 hours is way too much time. We women actually make so much effort to look the way we do and still want it to surface naturally as if we were just born with flawless skin and no concealer/base has given us our new found beauty.. :P

Well nothing wrong with using all these products but the point is that are these signs/mediums of covering up our insecurity or under-confidence? Will we be as confident and talkative if we were at Aer in our home clothes? I don't have the answer but I definitely have an observation.

No matter what we adorn, whether its Stella McCartney or its a Bandra buy, we must be comfortable and happy about being in our own skin. The feeling of being beautiful should not depend on material commodities. No matter what you wear you are attractive and gorgeous. So ladies, indulge if you're tasteful but not for the wrong reasons because your man will still find you the prettiest when you're bare ;)

STOP THINKING..ITS TIME FOR ACTION

Introduction

Dreamt of having your own business at 21? Imagine not having to intern or work under any tyrannical boss and having a set up of your own that allows you to foster your likings in a lucrative manner? This twin duo, Divya and Dipika Israni, has broken out of there imagination and made their dream come true by rooting their own flagship store of couture and accessories.

Information

They both completed there graduation in bachelors of managements studies in 2009 and applied for jobs here and there until they found their standing in the fashion field. They make garments, store shoes, clutches, earrings, neckpieces, cocktail rings and all that you need to look like a diva. Their brand name is Sapphire and their store is at Colaba, G6 apna ghar. Another unique feather in their cap is the fact that their parents are based in Dubai and the twins live in SoBo with their grand parents. This freedom transcends in their clothes line as well.

Take home

The spirit of backing your dreams by your actions. Most of us are left behind because we are fearful and under confident of our capabilities. We make excuses like inexperience or lack of funds to enterprise. But the fact is we are none of them. We too can bud out and blossom. Just dream on and work on it. The world out there is waiting for something honest and beneficial. So be that and express!!!